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I have been suffering from terrible periods since I entered puberty many many years ago. It is thankfully a lot better now, but it used to be really bad when I was younger. As a result, I spent a lot of time looking for answers to what was making me so ill during that time of the month and some kind of cure or at least something to relieve my problems. So off to the gynocologist I went for the very first time as a 12 or 13 year old. As you could imagine, I was both extremely uncomfortable and scared through the whole experience and the treatment I got from the doctor in question didn't help. Despite being a virgin, she announced that I clearly suffer from an STI (although she couldn't tell me which one) and more or less forced me to take a test despite my protests. The issue of my periods were quickly dismissed the instant I got on the examination-chair and instead the focus was on this STI that she had decided that I was suffering from (even though I had no symptoms other than regular discharge, mind you). I'm 36 now and I still have never gotten an answer to what is causing my periods to be so debilitating.

Maybe 10 or so years ago, I was accused by a now ex-boyfriend of giving him an STI (again, I never found out which one). His reasoning was that I had clearly cheated on him and this was proof. Despite not having any symptoms myself, again, I went to the doctor twice(!) to get tested for everything under the sun and it all came back negative. So my reasoning was that if he has an STI and I don't, then he must have gotten it from someone else and instead of just admitting it, he is pointing the finger at me. And that was the end of our relationship.

I wonder how many people have found themselves in similar situations where a test has resulted in the end of a relationship because each side has mistakenly believed that the other side has done something they haven't.

Pat Fuller's avatar

My GF of 3 years told me before we got intimate that she had herpes. I laughed… which surprised her. She said she knew who she “caught” it from. I said, you didn’t catch anything. 3 years later and she still thinks I’m crazy but she hasn’t had any symptoms, or an “outbreak”. The fear and brainwashing done to people is the thing that upsets me the most…

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